TW: Rant: Friday 19th July: Remembering Dora and Jasmine

I used to be a regular activist: a familiar face at protests of every kind, from environmentalism, to nuclear power, to feminist struggles and free education. I could have papered my whole flat in flyers and posters and protest literature. After a while, I burnt out and got sick and tired of never seeming to make a difference, no matter how many people chained themselves to whatever, no matter how many miles walked in whatever weather or how many... Read More

Casual Whorephobia: the week that was…

Those of you who follow my twitter aren’t going to be at all surprised at what I’m about to write. Those of you without twitter may have been spared some exposure to the following happenings, but you’ll no doubt recognise the phenomenon when I have explained it.   Yesterday morning a retweet appeared in my timeline, from @realmrscommuter to an escort I was vaguely aware of, mostly because of her fabulous name -@minxy_lydia.... Read More

Blog Carnival Day 2: My workshops and activism…

Last weekend I did a flying visit to London to co-facilitate a workshop for a full day of feminist Sex and Relationships Education for adults called The S Word. I have been asked to run this or very similar workshops several times in recent months, so I’d like to tell you a little about it here, since many people reading this blog may be more familiar with my delicious one-to-one sessions than with my outreach/advocacy/activism. I actually... Read More

Fabulous new pictures by the wonderful Matt Christie

Everyone knows that I pretty much hate having my photo taken. I have called it my least favourite part of this work, and I am not joking when I say I prefer doing my tax return. An industry friend of mine described it thus: “There is really nothing worse than standing in your smalls in front of someone and knowing that YOU are paying THEM for the privilege. I object to it on every level…” But it isn’t the role reversal that... Read More

The things only hosiery nerds need to know…

If you don’t already know about my penchant for vintage-style lingerie and stockings, you are probably in the wrong place. Never knowingly underdressed, I have attended just a handful of appointments during the last two years *without* the much-mentioned stockings and seams. Almost the last thing I do before I welcome a new person into my arms for an appointment is bend over in the mirror to stretch on a pair of gossamer-fine stockings. I find... Read More

Hooker-tainment at Edinburgh Fringe

  Assaulted with jokes about sex workers from the very first show I saw at this year’s Edinburgh Fringe festival, I’m trying to understand why we’re supposedly the edgiest, funniest material on everyone’s lips right now. In fairness, I’ve steered well clear of the usual and big name stand up comedy here, but I can’t help believing that if it is as misogynistic as reported then sex workers will get an even... Read More

NEWS: the overdue Edinburgh update…

Hello lovely people! More of an admin type post again, I’m afraid. I’ve got LOTS of news to share! People who keep an eye on my Adultwork profile will know some of this news already, and I have started slowly updating the copy on the other pages on my website, so it already reflects some of the changes that I’ve been making recently. Regular clients and some colleagues will also know that the biggest change is that I’m no longer... Read More

Threesomes: Playing with Couples: part 1

I am a very, very lucky person, not just for sex work, but in any work; sometimes I am paid to do things I love doing for free. I’d like to discuss one of those things today: sex with couples. Of course, more usually, the threesomes I am involved in at work involve another professional- this is also often awesome, but different, and I’ll blog about it separately soon. Managing the expectations of two people is more difficult, so I usually... Read More

What’s in a name? Musings on the nature of my work…

What’s in a name? That which we call a rose, By any other name would smell as sweet…                                                   ( Act II, Scene II, Romeo & Juliet) I’ve spent the last 4 days with the lovely Rebecca Lowrie on her Practitioner Training Course. I had been drawn to Rebecca and learning more about what she does for a while, so when she mentioned to me about a short... Read More

Accessibility post #1: Clients with disabilities

  I’d like to talk a little bit about working with clients with disabilities. I hope to be really honest about my capacities as well as my limitations, and I hope that you’ll appreciate my honesty in this. I recently saw this amazing film Scarlet Road about Rachel, a sex worker in Australia who does awesome work in her role with clients with disabilities. Rachel set up Touching Base, which refers clients to sex workers, as well as... Read More

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