TW: Rant: Friday 19th July: Remembering Dora and Jasmine

I used to be a regular activist: a familiar face at protests of every kind, from environmentalism, to nuclear power, to feminist struggles and free education. I could have papered my whole flat in flyers and posters and protest literature. After a while, I burnt out and got sick and tired of never seeming to make a difference, no matter how many people chained themselves to whatever, no matter how many miles walked in whatever weather or how many... Read More

Casual Whorephobia: the week that was…

Those of you who follow my twitter aren’t going to be at all surprised at what I’m about to write. Those of you without twitter may have been spared some exposure to the following happenings, but you’ll no doubt recognise the phenomenon when I have explained it.   Yesterday morning a retweet appeared in my timeline, from @realmrscommuter to an escort I was vaguely aware of, mostly because of her fabulous name -@minxy_lydia.... Read More

Blog Carnival Day 2: My workshops and activism…

Last weekend I did a flying visit to London to co-facilitate a workshop for a full day of feminist Sex and Relationships Education for adults called The S Word. I have been asked to run this or very similar workshops several times in recent months, so I’d like to tell you a little about it here, since many people reading this blog may be more familiar with my delicious one-to-one sessions than with my outreach/advocacy/activism. I actually... Read More

Hooker-tainment at Edinburgh Fringe

  Assaulted with jokes about sex workers from the very first show I saw at this year’s Edinburgh Fringe festival, I’m trying to understand why we’re supposedly the edgiest, funniest material on everyone’s lips right now. In fairness, I’ve steered well clear of the usual and big name stand up comedy here, but I can’t help believing that if it is as misogynistic as reported then sex workers will get an even... Read More

NEWS: the overdue Edinburgh update…

Hello lovely people! More of an admin type post again, I’m afraid. I’ve got LOTS of news to share! People who keep an eye on my Adultwork profile will know some of this news already, and I have started slowly updating the copy on the other pages on my website, so it already reflects some of the changes that I’ve been making recently. Regular clients and some colleagues will also know that the biggest change is that I’m no longer... Read More

What’s in a name? Musings on the nature of my work…

What’s in a name? That which we call a rose, By any other name would smell as sweet…                                                   ( Act II, Scene II, Romeo & Juliet) I’ve spent the last 4 days with the lovely Rebecca Lowrie on her Practitioner Training Course. I had been drawn to Rebecca and learning more about what she does for a while, so when she mentioned to me about a short... Read More

X:Meet Social Space for Sex Workers

Thank goodness; finally some more politics amongst the froth and bubble. Some of you may know, I spend some of the time available to me because of this job roughly engaged in pursuits under the heading of “making stuff better”. I’ve recently started doing a bit of stuff for the x:talk project who “make stuff better” by teaching English to migrant sex workers. You can read about them here: they can say everything about... Read More

The Fair Trade Sex Worker

A client once said to me “why do people care more about the rights of people who pick our coffee and cocoa beans than the rights of sex workers?”. This thought has stayed with me ever since, and I’ve asked the question many times on his behalf since, without any sensible answer. I think that most people would answer that fair trade sex workers aren’t trafficked, coerced or controlled for gain, but it seems to me there’s a LOT more to it... Read More

Industry Jargon

I know it’s inevitable that every industry will have its own jargon, but I have a particular dislike for some of the coy and ever-so-slightly demeaning words and phrases used to describe my work. Let me introduce you to a few of my favourites: A Level. aka Anal Sex. Famously misunderstood early in the TV series Secret Diary of a Call Girl, when Belle replies to the enquiry with her exam results (Politics, French, English Literature, or somesuch).... Read More

The Politics of Protection, or Why I won’t do OWO

Since this blog is partly to reach out and make contact with clients, I have definately made a blogging fail already: many clients will have mentally switched off or clicked away already- these are clients who seek OWO. Oral With Out (protection) is one of my personal buttons-you-press-for-a-rant, and that button has been sorely tested twice in the last 24 hours. I’ll tell you how, but first let me explain my position- it’s a carefully reasoned... Read More