An Erotic Education

  I mentioned during my talk at White Rabbit (the picture below is the lovely WR Boutique) last week that there’s no “school for sex workers” – no diploma program where you learn all the things you need to know for this industry: business skills, sexual health, counselling skills, let alone anything involving your kegels. But it’s equally true that there’s nowhere to go and learn to be a good client- and worst of all, it’s difficult... Read More

Blog Carnival Day 2: My workshops and activism…

Last weekend I did a flying visit to London to co-facilitate a workshop for a full day of feminist Sex and Relationships Education for adults called The S Word. I have been asked to run this or very similar workshops several times in recent months, so I’d like to tell you a little about it here, since many people reading this blog may be more familiar with my delicious one-to-one sessions than with my outreach/advocacy/activism. I actually... Read More

Fabulous new pictures by the wonderful Matt Christie

Everyone knows that I pretty much hate having my photo taken. I have called it my least favourite part of this work, and I am not joking when I say I prefer doing my tax return. An industry friend of mine described it thus: “There is really nothing worse than standing in your smalls in front of someone and knowing that YOU are paying THEM for the privilege. I object to it on every level…” But it isn’t the role reversal that... Read More

Upcoming London Visit: September dates, friends and booking

Lovely London people! I am sure that you have read in the last post the sad news (sad for you, jolly for me) that I have skipped the steaming metropolis for some better quality life in the beautiful city of Edinburgh. BUT! It is not all bad news. I plan to be back in London every 4-6weeks to see those dear regular clients who I have met over the last 2 years, and the few new lovely people who I choose to see during my visits. My first visit will be... Read More

NEWS: the overdue Edinburgh update…

Hello lovely people! More of an admin type post again, I’m afraid. I’ve got LOTS of news to share! People who keep an eye on my Adultwork profile will know some of this news already, and I have started slowly updating the copy on the other pages on my website, so it already reflects some of the changes that I’ve been making recently. Regular clients and some colleagues will also know that the biggest change is that I’m no longer... Read More

Kindle enabling my burgeoning erotica habit…

I’ve been meaning to talk about a couple of my very talented friends for a while, so when ANOTHER one mentioned just today that she’d just self-published a book of smutty short stories, I decided I had to blog about it. Despite the rest of this post, I actually don’t read a huge amount of erotica. Like visual pornography, I find so much mainstream stuff a turn-off, instead of actually arousing. The best erotica ( in my view) is really... Read More

Accessibility post #1: Clients with disabilities

  I’d like to talk a little bit about working with clients with disabilities. I hope to be really honest about my capacities as well as my limitations, and I hope that you’ll appreciate my honesty in this. I recently saw this amazing film Scarlet Road about Rachel, a sex worker in Australia who does awesome work in her role with clients with disabilities. Rachel set up Touching Base, which refers clients to sex workers, as well as... Read More

5 ways to be my perfect client…

I started writing this as a list of things I *didn’t* like people to do, and realised it sounded rather negative and down-beat. I actually meet overwhelmingly nice people, most of whom already do all or most of these things. But perhaps if you’ve tried to approach me or another provider and been turned back, improving on one or more of these things might change your chances of a date with me or whoever you’d like to see in the future… I’ve... Read More

X:Meet Social Space for Sex Workers

Thank goodness; finally some more politics amongst the froth and bubble. Some of you may know, I spend some of the time available to me because of this job roughly engaged in pursuits under the heading of “making stuff better”. I’ve recently started doing a bit of stuff for the x:talk project who “make stuff better” by teaching English to migrant sex workers. You can read about them here: they can say everything about... Read More

Cambridge, Oxford, London…

NB: yet again, girl in the picture *not* me. And slightly more glamorous than the travel I’ve got planned… As many of you know, I get regular itchy feet phases (thankfully of the metaphorical variety… if you have *actual* itchy feet, please visit your doctor) and have decided to do some city-hopping in the next few weeks. I’m not going to mention the dreaded T-word (“tour”)… as one AW member put it, “I’m... Read More

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