Casual Whorephobia: the week that was…

Those of you who follow my twitter aren’t going to be at all surprised at what I’m about to write. Those of you without twitter may have been spared some exposure to the following happenings, but you’ll no doubt recognise the phenomenon when I have explained it.   Yesterday morning a retweet appeared in my timeline, from @realmrscommuter to an escort I was vaguely aware of, mostly because of her fabulous name -@minxy_lydia.... Read More

Fabulous new pictures by the wonderful Matt Christie

Everyone knows that I pretty much hate having my photo taken. I have called it my least favourite part of this work, and I am not joking when I say I prefer doing my tax return. An industry friend of mine described it thus: “There is really nothing worse than standing in your smalls in front of someone and knowing that YOU are paying THEM for the privilege. I object to it on every level…” But it isn’t the role reversal that... Read More

The things only hosiery nerds need to know…

If you don’t already know about my penchant for vintage-style lingerie and stockings, you are probably in the wrong place. Never knowingly underdressed, I have attended just a handful of appointments during the last two years *without* the much-mentioned stockings and seams. Almost the last thing I do before I welcome a new person into my arms for an appointment is bend over in the mirror to stretch on a pair of gossamer-fine stockings. I find... Read More

Upcoming London Visit: September dates, friends and booking

Lovely London people! I am sure that you have read in the last post the sad news (sad for you, jolly for me) that I have skipped the steaming metropolis for some better quality life in the beautiful city of Edinburgh. BUT! It is not all bad news. I plan to be back in London every 4-6weeks to see those dear regular clients who I have met over the last 2 years, and the few new lovely people who I choose to see during my visits. My first visit will be... Read More

NEWS: the overdue Edinburgh update…

Hello lovely people! More of an admin type post again, I’m afraid. I’ve got LOTS of news to share! People who keep an eye on my Adultwork profile will know some of this news already, and I have started slowly updating the copy on the other pages on my website, so it already reflects some of the changes that I’ve been making recently. Regular clients and some colleagues will also know that the biggest change is that I’m no longer... Read More

Threesomes: Playing with Couples: part 1

I am a very, very lucky person, not just for sex work, but in any work; sometimes I am paid to do things I love doing for free. I’d like to discuss one of those things today: sex with couples. Of course, more usually, the threesomes I am involved in at work involve another professional- this is also often awesome, but different, and I’ll blog about it separately soon. Managing the expectations of two people is more difficult, so I usually... Read More

What’s in a name? Musings on the nature of my work…

What’s in a name? That which we call a rose, By any other name would smell as sweet…                                                   ( Act II, Scene II, Romeo & Juliet) I’ve spent the last 4 days with the lovely Rebecca Lowrie on her Practitioner Training Course. I had been drawn to Rebecca and learning more about what she does for a while, so when she mentioned to me about a short... Read More

Accessibility post #1: Clients with disabilities

  I’d like to talk a little bit about working with clients with disabilities. I hope to be really honest about my capacities as well as my limitations, and I hope that you’ll appreciate my honesty in this. I recently saw this amazing film Scarlet Road about Rachel, a sex worker in Australia who does awesome work in her role with clients with disabilities. Rachel set up Touching Base, which refers clients to sex workers, as well as... Read More

5 ways to be my perfect client…

I started writing this as a list of things I *didn’t* like people to do, and realised it sounded rather negative and down-beat. I actually meet overwhelmingly nice people, most of whom already do all or most of these things. But perhaps if you’ve tried to approach me or another provider and been turned back, improving on one or more of these things might change your chances of a date with me or whoever you’d like to see in the future… I’ve... Read More

X:Meet Social Space for Sex Workers

Thank goodness; finally some more politics amongst the froth and bubble. Some of you may know, I spend some of the time available to me because of this job roughly engaged in pursuits under the heading of “making stuff better”. I’ve recently started doing a bit of stuff for the x:talk project who “make stuff better” by teaching English to migrant sex workers. You can read about them here: they can say everything about... Read More

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