Violet by Matt Christie 2012

Obviously enough, mathematically you are not the minority. Let’s start with money, because when we are talking about power, we’re often talking about economic power. Minority clients generally have less (newsflash: we have gross global inequality). If you are a person of colour/queer/female/working-class/trans/disabled then unless you have a lot of other privilege (intersectionality: it exists) you probably have less money than a majority client. I haven’t worked out quite what to do about this yet. I’ve spent a long time thinking and a bit of time doing something about social justice, but I haven’t figured a good way to apply it to my own work yet. So if you are a minority client, let’s talk about (financial) accessibility for your needs and figure it out together.

But broadly, I will say to you: I am EXTREMELY open to working with clients from minority backgrounds. I know a fair amount about queer, trans and feminist issues; I am familiar with anti-racist work and have spent time reading and working on disability politics. In my private life, virtually everyone I have ever dated/played with/had a relationship with, would fall into this category.

It’s also probable that if you are a minority client that cultural and social reasons will have affected your accessibility to sex workers, as well as financial ones. Despite the best efforts of every womens’ magazine from Easy Living to Vogue, I still think most women don’t believe they deserve good sex- or if they do (and they can access it), they are framed as sluts. Trans people and people of colour (and particularly trans women of colour) are more likely to be thought of or treated as sex workers themselves than clients. As for queer women (I’m guessing most queer guys are finding their kicks elsewhere, although I’d be TOTALLY HAPPY TO HELP), there are so many sex myths about lesbian and bi-feminine sexuality, I can’t even start on them here…

I personally believe that all of those things are EXACTLY why minority clients should have more access to suitable sex workers.

I start all my work the same way, although I’m often more explicit about it with minority clients, because I feel it’s even more important for them to see I’m actively working with and for them.

If someone approaches me, together we answer the questions:

-What’s pleasurable to you? – i.e., what kind of stuff do you already know you like? What would you like to try?

-What’s possible for you? – what are the barriers to the above? Do you have access needs? Childcare needs that affect when we could meet? Medical stuff I should know?

-What can we do together? –what are you looking to get from the experience?

I hope that I’m the right person for you, but if you want to read more about my training, my other work, or just check me out before contacting me, take your time! If not, there are lots of other cool people in the industry too, ask me for a referral or look here.