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TW: Rant: Friday 19th July: Remembering Dora and Jasmine

Jasmine

I used to be a regular activist: a familiar face at protests of every kind, from environmentalism, to nuclear power, to feminist struggles and free education. I could have papered my whole flat in flyers and posters and protest literature. After a while, I burnt out and got sick and tired of never seeming to make a difference, no matter how many people chained themselves to whatever,... Read More

Casual Whorephobia: the week that was…

Lydia being minxy

Those of you who follow my twitter aren’t going to be at all surprised at what I’m about to write. Those of you without twitter may have been spared some exposure to the following happenings, but you’ll no doubt recognise the phenomenon when I have explained it.   Yesterday morning a retweet appeared in my timeline, from @realmrscommuter to an escort I was... Read More

Blog Carnival Day 2: My workshops and activism…

feminist fightback

Last weekend I did a flying visit to London to co-facilitate a workshop for a full day of feminist Sex and Relationships Education for adults called The S Word. I have been asked to run this or very similar workshops several times in recent months, so I’d like to tell you a little about it here, since many people reading this blog may be more familiar with my delicious one-to-one... Read More

Celebrating Eroticon 2013: a mini-blog carnival

Probably nearly as stressful as my house move. Maybe.

I am sure you will all have noticed my silence on social media over the Christmas and New Year: no blogging and even no twitter (gasp!) Thankfully, I’m gradually leaving my winter hibernation now and crawling, eyes blinking into a new social spring. Those of you following on twitter will have noticed the tail-end of my house move. That lengthy process plus a short period... Read More

Fabulous new pictures by the wonderful Matt Christie

Matt Christie triumphs over body dysphoria

Everyone knows that I pretty much hate having my photo taken. I have called it my least favourite part of this work, and I am not joking when I say I prefer doing my tax return. An industry friend of mine described it thus: “There is really nothing worse than standing in your smalls in front of someone and knowing that YOU are paying THEM for the privilege. I object to it... Read More

Upcoming London Visit: September dates, friends and booking

suitcase

Lovely London people! I am sure that you have read in the last post the sad news (sad for you, jolly for me) that I have skipped the steaming metropolis for some better quality life in the beautiful city of Edinburgh. BUT! It is not all bad news. I plan to be back in London every 4-6weeks to see those dear regular clients who I have met over the last 2 years, and the few new lovely... Read More

NEWS: the overdue Edinburgh update…

edinburgh

Hello lovely people! More of an admin type post again, I’m afraid. I’ve got LOTS of news to share! People who keep an eye on my Adultwork profile will know some of this news already, and I have started slowly updating the copy on the other pages on my website, so it already reflects some of the changes that I’ve been making recently. Regular clients and some colleagues... Read More

Threesomes: Playing with Couples: part 1

Three Feet

I am a very, very lucky person, not just for sex work, but in any work; sometimes I am paid to do things I love doing for free. I’d like to discuss one of those things today: sex with couples. Of course, more usually, the threesomes I am involved in at work involve another professional- this is also often awesome, but different, and I’ll blog about it separately soon. Managing... Read More

Kindle enabling my burgeoning erotica habit…

Vina Green Copper Horse

I’ve been meaning to talk about a couple of my very talented friends for a while, so when ANOTHER one mentioned just today that she’d just self-published a book of smutty short stories, I decided I had to blog about it. Despite the rest of this post, I actually don’t read a huge amount of erotica. Like visual pornography, I find so much mainstream stuff a turn-off,... Read More

Accessibility post #1: Clients with disabilities

Scarlet Road

  I’d like to talk a little bit about working with clients with disabilities. I hope to be really honest about my capacities as well as my limitations, and I hope that you’ll appreciate my honesty in this. I recently saw this amazing film Scarlet Road about Rachel, a sex worker in Australia who does awesome work in her role with clients with disabilities. Rachel... Read More